Hello bloggers! Binge Eating Disorder Association is implementing a National Weight Stigma Awareness Week September 26-30 this year and would love YOUR help spreading awareness and sharing your thoughts/experiences on the topic.
You might be asking what exactly is weight stigma? Well, weight stigma is bullying, teasing, negative body language, harsh comments, discrimination, or prejudice based upon a person’s body size. Weight Stigma is something that shames and hurts many people (of all shapes and sizes) and it is time 1) to spread an awareness of how harmful it is to all and 2) to talk about it.
So now you might ask: how can I help? We would LOVE for you to be a part of our blog carnivals geared toward spreading awareness of stigmas and prejudice concerning our bodies and weight. The blog carnivals will take place the last Wednesday of every month for the months of July, August, and September, and Kendra has (kindly) offered to host the blog carnivals here at “Voice in Recovery”!
July 27th – What does weight stigma mean to you?
August 31st – How does weight stigma increase body dissatisfaction?
September 14th – Why is having a National Weight Stigma Awareness Week important and what are you going to do to contribute? (Note: Coming soon on Bedaonline.com is the National Weight Stigma Awareness Week Call to Action for more ideas)
September 28th – How is weight stigma (in culture) a form of abuse that can lead to trauma and/or possibly to eating disorders?
No limit to the length of post, but the more concise the blogs- the more of them that will get read
Any blogger can participate in the carnival by writing about the topics provided above. To participate link up to the host site blog “Voice in Recovery” by using permalink (so that the link takes us to the topic blog not your homepage). For more information on permalink go here.
***Note: Participating bloggers should be sensitive to others journeys and refrain from using weight/size related numbers. Posts found to further stigmatize size, to be potentially harmful, or to be derogatory toward others will be eliminated from the blog carnival.
Remember to tag all of your post with “spreading weight stigma awareness”
Finally, we would love for you to join the conversation and tweet about your post using #weightstigma hashtag!! I look forward to reading all your post and building a movement to stop all forms of weight stigma and prejudice!
As you participate in the Weight Stigma Awareness Week Blog Carnivals, we recommend using “Non-Violent Communication” (NVC) as you blog or respond to a blog/posting. If after reading these guidelines you have questions about how to employ NVC in the blog carnivals, please feel free to contact: Kathleen MacDonald at: kathleen(at)freedfoundation.org
What is NVC?
NVC is a “language of life” that helps us connect with each other and ourselves in a way that allows our natural compassion to flourish. It guides us to reframe the way we express ourselves and listen to others by focusing our consciousness on four areas: what we are observing, what we are feeling, what we need, and what we are requesting, in an ultimate effort to enrich our lives . NVC fosters deep listening, respect and empathy, and helps to transform defensiveness and aggressiveness into mutually satisfying outcomes. NVC also helps avoid making moralistic judgments that imply wrong or bad when someone doesn’t act in harmony with our values/thought processes.
The Model: The basic model for NVC is really quite straightforward and simple. It is a process that combines four components with two parts. They are the basis for NVC’s principals of giving and receiving from the heart.
- Observation without evaluation: consists of noticing concrete words and actions around us. Observation without evaluation means truly learning to distinguish between judgment, and to simply observe what is there.
- Feeling: We inevitably experience varying emotions and physical sensations in each particular moment of life. Distinguishing feelings from thoughts, especially judgmental thoughts, is an essential step to the NVC process.
- Needs: All individuals have needs that enrich their lives. When those needs are met, we experience comfortable feelings, like happiness or peacefulness. When those needs are not met, we experience uncomfortable feelings, like frustration. Understanding that we, as well as those around us, have these needs is perhaps the most important step in learning to practice NVC and to live emphatically.
- Request: To make clear and present requests is crucial to NVC. When we learn to request concrete actions that can be carried out in the present moment, we begin to find ways to cooperatively and creatively ensure that everyone’s needs are met.
- Empathy: Receiving from the heart creates a means to connect with others and share experiences in a truly life enriching way. Empathy goes beyond compassion, allowing us to put ourselves into another’s shoes to sense the same feelings and understand the same needs; in essence, being open and available to what is alive in others. It also gives us the means to remain present to and aware of our own needs and the needs of others even in extreme situations that are often difficult to handle.
- Honesty: Giving from the heart has its root in honesty. Honesty begins with truly understanding ourselves and our own needs, and being in tune with what is alive in us in the present moment. When we learn to give ourselves empathy, we can start to break down the barriers to communication that keep us from connecting with others.
From these four components and two parts, NVC has created a model for life enriching communication that can be highly effective in solving conflict with our family members, with our friends, with our coworkers, and with ourselves. The basic outline of the model is the following:
When I see that______________
I feel ______________
because my need for ________________ is/is not met.
Would you be willing to __________________?
helpful NEEDS & FEELINGS charts:
***NVC can be practiced by one person and make a significant impact on the tone of a conversation. Even if the person receiving the NVC is not aware of how to use NVC, YOU can practice NVC. Any questions you have about this process and how to employ it in the blog carnivals, please contact: kathleen(at)freedfoundation.org
summary of NVC developed by Kathleen MacDonald from: Rosenberg, Marshall; Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life; Del Mar, California: PuddleDancer Press, 2003.