Announcing Weight Stigma Blog Carnivals

Written by: Janet Zimmerman, Intern for Binge Eating Disorder Association

Hello bloggers! Binge Eating Disorder Association is implementing a National Weight Stigma Awareness Week September 26-30 this year and would love YOUR help spreading awareness and sharing your thoughts/experiences on the topic.

You might be asking what exactly is weight stigma? Well, weight stigma is bullying, teasing, negative body language, harsh comments, discrimination, or prejudice based upon a person’s body size. Weight Stigma is something that shames and hurts many people (of all shapes and sizes) and it is time 1) to spread an awareness of how harmful it is to all and 2) to talk about it.

So now you might ask: how can I help? We would LOVE for you to be a part of our blog carnivals geared toward spreading awareness of stigmas and prejudice concerning our bodies and weight. The blog carnivals will take place the last Wednesday of every month for the months of July, August, and September, and Kendra has (kindly) offered to host the blog carnivals here at “Voice in Recovery”!

TOPICS:

July 27th – What does weight stigma mean to you?

August 31st – How does weight stigma increase body dissatisfaction?

September 14th – Why is having a National Weight Stigma Awareness Week important and what are you going to do to contribute? (Note: Coming soon on Bedaonline.com is the National Weight Stigma Awareness Week Call to Action for more ideas)

September 28th – How is weight stigma (in culture) a form of abuse that can lead to trauma and/or possibly to eating disorders?

Blogging Guidelines:

Length

No limit to the length of post, but the more concise the blogs- the more of them that will get read :-)

Rules

Any blogger can participate in the carnival by writing about the topics provided above. To participate link up to the host site blog “Voice in Recovery” by using permalink (so that the link takes us to the topic blog not your homepage). For more information on permalink go here.

***Note: Participating bloggers should be sensitive to others journeys and refrain from using weight/size related numbers. Posts found to further stigmatize size, to be potentially harmful, or to be derogatory toward others will be eliminated from the blog carnival.

Tag-

Remember to tag all of your post with “spreading weight stigma awareness”

Finally, we would love for you to join the conversation and tweet about your post using #weightstigma hashtag!! I look forward to reading all your post and building a movement to stop all forms of weight stigma and prejudice!

As you participate in the Weight Stigma Awareness Week Blog Carnivals, we recommend using “Non-Violent Communication” (NVC) as you blog or respond to a blog/posting. If after reading these guidelines you have questions about how to employ NVC in the blog carnivals, please feel free to contact: Kathleen MacDonald at: kathleen(at)freedfoundation.org


What is NVC?

NVC is a “language of life” that helps us connect with each other and ourselves in a way that allows our natural compassion to flourish. It guides us to reframe the way we express ourselves and listen to others by focusing our consciousness on four areas: what we are observing, what we are feeling, what we need, and what we are requesting, in an ultimate effort to enrich our lives . NVC fosters deep listening, respect and empathy, and helps to transform defensiveness and aggressiveness into mutually satisfying outcomes. NVC also helps avoid making moralistic judgments that imply wrong or bad when someone doesn’t act in harmony with our values/thought processes.

The Model: The basic model for NVC is really quite straightforward and simple. It is a process that combines four components with two parts. They are the basis for NVC’s principals of giving and receiving from the heart.

Four Components

  1. Observation without evaluation: consists of noticing concrete words and actions around us. Observation without evaluation means truly learning to distinguish between judgment, and to simply observe what is there.
  2. Feeling: We inevitably experience varying emotions and physical sensations in each particular moment of life. Distinguishing feelings from thoughts, especially judgmental thoughts, is an essential step to the NVC process.
  3. Needs: All individuals have needs that enrich their lives. When those needs are met, we experience comfortable feelings, like happiness or peacefulness. When those needs are not met, we experience uncomfortable feelings, like frustration. Understanding that we, as well as those around us, have these needs is perhaps the most important step in learning to practice NVC and to live emphatically.
  4. Request: To make clear and present requests is crucial to NVC. When we learn to request concrete actions that can be carried out in the present moment, we begin to find ways to cooperatively and creatively ensure that everyone’s needs are met.

Two Parts

  1. Empathy: Receiving from the heart creates a means to connect with others and share experiences in a truly life enriching way. Empathy goes beyond compassion, allowing us to put ourselves into another’s shoes to sense the same feelings and understand the same needs; in essence, being open and available to what is alive in others. It also gives us the means to remain present to and aware of our own needs and the needs of others even in extreme situations that are often difficult to handle.
  2. Honesty: Giving from the heart has its root in honesty. Honesty begins with truly understanding ourselves and our own needs, and being in tune with what is alive in us in the present moment. When we learn to give ourselves empathy, we can start to break down the barriers to communication that keep us from connecting with others.

From these four components and two parts, NVC has created a model for life enriching communication that can be highly effective in solving conflict with our family members, with our friends, with our coworkers, and with ourselves. The basic outline of the model is the following:

When I see that______________
I feel ______________
because my need for ________________ is/is not met.
Would you be willing to __________________?

helpful NEEDS & FEELINGS charts:

link to NEEDS: http://www.cnvc.org/Training/needs-inventory
Link to FEELINGS: http://www.cnvc.org/Training/feelings-inventory

***NVC can be practiced by one person and make a significant impact on the tone of a conversation. Even if the person receiving the NVC is not aware of how to use NVC, YOU can practice NVC. Any questions you have about this process and how to employ it in the blog carnivals, please contact: kathleen(at)freedfoundation.org

summary of NVC developed by Kathleen MacDonald from: Rosenberg, Marshall; Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life; Del Mar, California: PuddleDancer Press, 2003.

39 Responses to Announcing Weight Stigma Blog Carnivals
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  7. Kat
    July 27, 2011 | 10:29 am
  8. Beth
    July 27, 2011 | 2:34 pm

    I posted earlier today, but the trackback didn’t work. Check it out here: http://www.youngidealisticbaker.com/2011/07/weight-stigma-blog-carnival-part-1.html

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  10. Aimee
    July 27, 2011 | 7:19 pm

    Here you go! I wrote a poem from my viewpoint, that is to say from the viewpoint of someone trapped in her stigmatizing thinking and her stigmatized body at the same time. Here’s the link: http://hiroshimem.wordpress.com/2011/07/27/i-am-more-than-a-tag/
    Aimee recently posted..I am more than a tag

  11. Angela E. Lackey
    July 27, 2011 | 7:31 pm

    My blog post, “(Weight)ing for Change — Why Weight Stigma Impacts Us All” can be found at http://angelaelackey.blogspot.com/2011/07/weighting-for-change-why-weight-stigma.html
    Angela E. Lackey recently posted..Weight(ing) For Change — Why Weight Stigma Impacts Us All

  12. Sydney
    July 27, 2011 | 7:46 pm

    I think I am doing this right…I put the link to my blog post in the ‘website’ section. I look forward to reading other’s thoughts.

    …and love the idea of the carnival! Keep up the good work.
    Sydney recently posted..I’m entering a blog carnival on weight stigma. Come join me for the ride!

  13. Carol Hess
    July 28, 2011 | 11:08 am

    I wasn’t sure how to correctly post the link to my recent blog post that is about weight stigma. So I’m embedding the permalink in this comment. Hope that’s okay?

    http://www.starpolisher.com/i-wish-you-would-do-something-about-your-weight/
    Carol Hess recently posted..I Wish You Would Do Something About Your Weight

    • ViR
      July 28, 2011 | 11:14 am

      Hi Carol – That works!! Thank you for sharing your voice!

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  16. Alice
    August 6, 2011 | 7:07 am

    I was at the gym the other day and I overheard a member talking to the trainer about her calf pain which she attributed to her weight.

    This comment brought to mind my training from many years back about anti-racism. One of the most powerful tenents is that standing by when others make racist comments or actions, is called “passive racism.” I therefore could not just stand by as this woman was blaming her calf pain on her weight.

    Instead, I looked her in the eye and kindly said, “I advise you not to speak in that way about your weight. There are many causes of pain.” She looked at me wide eyed. I do not know how my comment sat with her as it was a fleeting moment, but I hope it gave her pause.

  17. Janet Zimmerman
    August 10, 2011 | 8:13 pm

    Here is my post about weight stigma, research, and why it hurts…

    http://leslieschilling.wordpress.com/2011/08/11/weight-stigma-why-it-hurts/

    Thanks again for all your work on this kendra! Excited to see all the links tomorrow :)

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  20. Beth
    August 31, 2011 | 5:31 pm

    I have a second post about weight stigma up on my blog now! http://www.youngidealisticbaker.com/2011/08/weight-stigmas-affects-on-body.html

  21. Sara Grambusch
    September 2, 2011 | 6:29 am

    Wow this is great. Discovered it pretty late but I will definitely participate in the last two dates and now I have all the resources to check out. Thanks for hosting!
    Sara Grambusch recently posted..What Are You Apologizing For?

  22. Traci Cullins-Clark
    September 22, 2011 | 3:39 pm

    This is wonderful! I posted the article from Dr. Puhl’s blog on mine (with citations) announcing this week’s health & wellness effort…FABULOUS!

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  24. Amy Harman, LMFT
    September 26, 2011 | 8:50 am

    Weight Stigma Awareness Week post: http://www.becomingabetterwoman.com/2011/09/weight-stigma-awareness-week-bullying.html

    Love the carnival! Thanks for doing this!

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    September 26, 2011 | 2:13 pm

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  26. Tony Marren
    September 27, 2011 | 12:13 am

    I often get typecasted as overweight.Yet as I get physicals each year my blood pressure and blood tests denote a healthy guy.Blood sugar? 91.Cholesterol?134.Body fat%? 32.Yet because of the scale and having a stocky build I get stigmatized.The ultimate cut came in Church one Sunday;I was invited to speak in the worship service.After it ended a rather ignorant minded woman approached me and expressed how by wearing glasses and being overweight I look stupid.Yet my sermon sounded like a theologian.She was stymied.For the rest of the time she was in my chapel I avoided her.

  27. Annajean
    September 27, 2011 | 4:28 am

    I have been overweight most of my life. I have had brief periods where my weight was normal…even then after months of strenuous dieting(1000 calorie a day). Then I had children, so much for being in the normal range. Then in my thirties, my thyroid quit working and poof! I am at 250 pounds no matter how or what I eat.

    That part doesn’t bother me, I have adjusted to the fact that I am the size that I am. What bothers me is that people automatically assume that I am stupid or uneducated simply because of my weight. I am constantly underestimated. It is amusing to watch the skinny person’s reaction when I disabuse them of the delusion that fat = stupid.

    I am neither stupid or uneducated. In fact, I have 3 college degrees, own my own business and I have a huge vocabulary. My family values me for my ability to come up with clever workable solutions to problems.

  28. Cena Kenner
    September 27, 2011 | 6:13 am

    I was once told I looked like a circus sideshow freak. I am 5’2″ tall and weighed 300 lbs at the time.

  29. amber
    September 27, 2011 | 7:43 am

    I finally convinced my husband to go see a doctor for a physical. He hadn’t been to any kind of doctor in over 6 years. He is overweight but is active and is the hardest worker I have ever met. He was in the doctor’s office and the doctor walked in and before even introducing himself looked him up and down and said, “you are huge, what a fat pig. you are going to kill yourself if you don’t loose weight” my husband walked out and I can’t get him back to see someone else. People, especially doctors, need to realize it isn’t that easy. Would telling an alcoholic to just stop drinking work? My husband has tried to loose weight, we all have, it is not easy. How about connecting people to the resources they need- nutritionist, exersize and lifestyle changes, as opposed to telling people to eat healthy and exersize. If we really want to fight obesity, make resources easier to access and reduce the costs, if not, make them free. Support people in this struggle, don’t judge or try to bully them into loosing weight.

  30. Pam
    September 27, 2011 | 8:48 am

    Thanks for your sensitivity and humanity in fighting an evil and insensitive prejudice. I’ve struggled with weight issues all my life.

  31. Marsha @ Green Mountain at Fox Run
    September 28, 2011 | 7:48 am

    We’re dedicating our blog to Weight Stigma Awareness Week this week. Darla, our psychologist, has put together short videos talking about how we can help ourselves deal with the negative effects of weight stigma. We’ll wrap it up this week with a look at what we can do to help change weight stigma in our society. Here are links to the first three posts this week: http://www.fitwoman.com/blog/2011/09/fighting-weight-stigma-body-positivity.html

    http://www.fitwoman.com/blog/2011/09/fight-weight-stigma-with-self-compassion.html

    http://www.fitwoman.com/blog/2011/09/fight-weight-stigma-with-pleasure.html

  32. Joy Hall
    September 28, 2011 | 9:59 am

    Well, this was an eye-opener for sure — reading the comments from others, particularly the ones who basically say, “Go do it, what are you waiting for.” My life has been a diet from the get-go since I was 10. I’m now 63 and have never truly accomplished it after losing a regaining hundreds of lbs over the years, I am still not resigned to it. I am incredibly unhappy with the fact that I have never been able to accomplish this weight loss. Had a gastric bypass 11 yrs ago and regained 60 of the 170 I took off, but was still far away from a good goal. I hate the weight stigma thing I feel every, single day of my life, but feel hopeless to every REALLY accomplish the whole done deal. I sit within my daily pity-party and wonder what will be the next thing to try.

  33. Anne Bailey
    September 28, 2011 | 1:11 pm

    Here’s the link to my weight stigma post. BTW, it made the MSN home page for two hours!

    http://fitbie.msn.com/2011/09/26/do-americans-hate-fat-people-fight-prejudice-against-overweight

    • ViR
      September 28, 2011 | 9:45 pm

      Anne I want to thank you SOOOOO much! I was looking at my stats and noticed the link and was AMAZED at the numbers coming from there! I truly appreciate your post and being a resource! I cannot thank you enough – I have never had such response!!

  34. Caitlin McGahan
    September 29, 2011 | 12:31 pm

    This is such an important topic, and I feel like it has been getting overlooked for so long. Thank you for making people aware!
    http://figure-eight.blogspot.com/2011/09/content-of-our-characterunless-our.html

  35. Marilyn
    September 30, 2011 | 9:00 am

    I had 2 miscarriages and was pregnant with my 3rd child my mother in law had gotten a camper. She made the comment that she would let me step up into the camper and if the step did not break that everyone would be ok. I was totally devastated by her comment. Here I was pregnant with her last grandchild and she made this comment to my family! I told her that she really needed to think about what she just said. I was pregnant and if I fell it could possible cause me to loose my baby, her grandchild. Needless to say she has never made any comment about my weight again. I now have diabetes and weigh as much when I was pregnant! I think that bringing attention to this persons comment and telling them what you think does help them to realize what they have said. People who say these comments to people are stupid and need to educate themselves about obesity and the cause of it.

  36. Michelle May MD
    October 1, 2011 | 10:35 am

    Thank you for offering this weight stigma blog carnival – and thank you to BEDA for planning the first Weight Stigma Awareness Week. I’ll look forward to the LAST one when weight stigma is no longer a problem.

    In the meantime, I posted two blogs on this topic:

    End Weight Stigma…Starting with Your Own (Boot the Bully from Your Brain)

    http://www.eatwhatyoulovelovewhatyoueat.com/2011/10/end-weight-stigma-starting-with-your-own.html

    Don’t Measure Your Self-Worth

    http://www.diabetesandmindfuleating.com/2011/09/weight-stigma-awareness-week-dont-measure-your-self-worth.html

  37. Sarah
    December 9, 2011 | 6:34 am

    This is such a fantastic idea! I really look forward to everyone’s responses.
    Sarah recently posted..Mum’s Quiche

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